The problem of conflict
Conflict in married life can not be avoided, all the families who have been married must have experienced and can even be said to deal with conflict is part of married life. Just how do I deal with and resolve conflict in the household who is an art in the life of the wedding.
Human life is in constant change with time and development of the era. It is therefore natural that in interacting with our neighbors often clash or conflict, because of differences occur. Conflict can be defined as a situation where two or more people live close together and intersect each other. Moreover, if not since married couples living under the same roof with us, of course going to be easy going conflict, even fights.
In fact the conflict is not a sin, but to bear sin, if not addressed creatively. So what should be done let this conflict is not brought into sin, how?
First, understand the causes of the conflict itself
1. The big difference in men and women in each body cell. Differences in chromosome combination is the main cause of the emergence of the changing nature of masculinity with femininity.
2. In some cases women have important functions that are not owned by men, for example, during menstruation, pregnancy and lactation. This affects the behavior and feelings, of course men do not.
3. Most women talk more use of feelings, but men talk more using a ratio.
4. Differences family background and social environment that shape the personality of each before they bind themselves in a marriage.
5. The difference is the nature of temperament they have luggage.
6. Differences in terms of spiritual maturity, when a fellow believer, but it might be different in terms of confidence of faith.
In the family, conflict can also occur because there are enemies that can only arise within the family itself and from outside the family. Enemies include:
1. The intervention of a third party, usually in-law or brother-in-law.
2. Not having a family ancestry that causes it to feel empty and unhappy.
3. Poverty or doubtful debts due to errors in financial processing.
4. Between hope and belief that is not appropriate (like a car, house, luxurious furnishings other income would not comply with expectations).
5. Pornography, gambling addict and alcoholic and drug user.
6. Infidelity.
7. Personal hobby that ignores family responsibilities.
8. Use the power of darkness.
Second, how to deal with it.
When husband and wife have discovered what makes the conflict and recognize the enemy it faces marriage, then husband and wife should start talking openly, begin to learn to receive and assess any intrinsic differences in female and male. Husband and wife at least provide a special time to get to know and understand each other more deeply.
So if there is a conflict should be discussed as soon as possible and finish it before the conflict dragged into a more serious problem. Remember the occurrence of conflict in marriage is a process of self-recognition and a good understanding of each individual but also a place to process maturity in thinking, speaking and acting against the couple.
Third, pray and full surrender to God.
In the face of conflict in prayer at least will bring better to fix the problem, it's not impossible prayer of the righteous will be a big power to be granted.
Conclusion
It needs to be done to help a troubled marriage in the face of conflict or face the enemies of marriage and the differences that exist. Step what to do?
* With him, by way of an advisor or mentor in the settlement of the problem and review it based on religious principles.
* Build a healthy spiritual life and a harmonious family communication and open. Invite the family to pray together. Household so that it can survive in the face of shocks and strong through difficult times.
* Begin the household help on how to behave proactively in dealing with the problem based on the principles of faith.
* Inviting doing positive activities which in turn can help them in solving domestic problems.
The important thing is there is intention and change attitudes, then the problem of weighing anything, anything as complex or the difference principle which, although very much would be overcome with good. Most of this failure is not the desire for mutual forgiveness and humility
